Wednesday, 31 May 2017

Hidden In Plain Sight

It is easy to hope that something unexpected, from outside of our normal routine, will burst onto our scene and bring about a breakthrough in our life. Maybe an unexpected inheritance, an inside business opportunity or an influential person taking an interest in us. This is the lure of many movies and books.  It is also the lure of scam artists.  Unfortunately, this type of thinking usually leads to powerlessness while we search desperately for something that we already have.

You see, everything we need for the first stage of a breakthrough in our life is already in place.  An ancient story tells of three stewards who were each given resources to manage. The first was given the most and they used their resources and they grew. The second was given somewhat less but they too used their resources and they grew. The third steward received less than the other two, although it was still a significant amount of resources. This steward was afraid of losing what they were given so they buried them to keep them safe.  At the end of the story, the first two stewards were rewarded according to the increase they brought about.  The third steward had everything taken away. 

We all have been given something valuable.  And what we have been given will grow if we steward it.  If you do not believe that you have something valuable to steward and grow, the key question is, where did you hide it or bury it?  And why?

Many of us have been waiting a long time for a breakthrough... the good news is the wait is over.  The way forward is to discover again the treasure we have been given, dust it off, place it in a prominent place and nurture it while it grows. 

This is not easy.  Many of us despise the treasure we have been given and in so doing we despise ourselves.  Searching for and digging up the treasure can be full of conflict and confusion - hope, anger, expectation, shame...

Waiting for something or someone to unexpectedly rescue us is a form of powerlessness.  Embracing who we are and what we have been given is the treasure that is hidden in plain sight.  

Daniel

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Thursday, 18 May 2017

The Power of Agreement

A few weeks ago I introduced the importance of power and love in solving difficult situations in which we find ourselves stuck.  One of the key elements in moving from powerlessness to powerful is the power of agreement.  

The power of agreement is a basic level of power that we all have been given.  We are all responsible for the things we agree to.  But we should not exercise our power of agreement lightly.  When we agree with something and commit to action, regardless of the consequences, our power in that area will grow.  If it is a good thing that we agree with and take action on, then the power to do other good things will grow.  If it is a bad thing that we agree with and take action on, then the power to do other bad things will grow.  

But when we choose to act like we agree with something that we don't agree with, we give away power.  An ancient saying says that a house divided against itself will fall.  Acting in a powerless way leads to more powerlessness.  

I am not saying that we have to agree with each thing that we choose to take action on.  There will be a lot of situations in life where things did not go the way we wanted.  Whenever we make decisions with others there will probably be perspectives we don't agree with and sometimes decisions will be made that we disagree with but require our action. The key issue is what we tell ourselves, the way we portray ourselves to others, and the action we take. 

There are five scenarios I see related to the power of agreement that determine whether we are acting in powerful or powerless ways:

  1. I agree, I communicate that I agree, I take action = Powerful
  2. I disagree, I communicate that I disagree and will not take action, I take no action = Powerful
  3. I disagree, I communicate that I disagree but will still take action, I take action = Powerful
  4. I agree, I am silent or communicate that I disagree, I either take action or not = Powerless
  5. I disagree, I am silent or communicate that I agree, I either take action or not = Powerless

I am not saying that we should weigh in on every situation we face.  That just comes across as opinionated or judgemental. But we need to ask ourselves whether we are acting in powerful or powerless ways in the situations where we find ourselves stuck. 

Daniel

The best mosaics have a lot of pieces...

Thursday, 11 May 2017

Understanding Patterns: Limits to Growth

Limits to growth can be very frustrating.  I am not talking about the times when we see success but the times when we keep doing the same thing that brought us success in the past but now with less and less results. It turns out that this is a very common and predictable pattern.  Fortunately, it is also a problem that can be overcome if we are willing to let go of what we believe is limiting our success. 

The pattern of growth is familiar.  We undertake something and success leads to more resources and more enthusiasm so there is growth which leads to more resources and enthusiasm and so on.  In its simplest form, as long as we kept doing the same things that brought success, growth would keep on occuring forever.   However, this clearly doesn't happen in real life.  Slowdowns eventually happen. 

The typical response to a slowdown in growth is to put in more of what was causing the growth in the place.  More time, more money, more effort.  Kind of like using a bigger hammer.  This may work temporarily but soon the pattern of slowdown will reoccur and more dramatically.  You see, the cycle of growth is always attached to a balancing cycle that eventually results in resistance to further growth.  Just like the cycle of success keeps leading to growth, so the balancing cycle keeps leading to resistance that slows or stops growth.  As a result, when the balancing cycle is operating, more growth will lead to more resistance and the effort to grow will be more and more costly.

The secret to overcoming the limits to growth pattern is to focus on understanding the balancing cycle rather than the growth cycle.  The strongest part of the balancing cycle are the unintended consequences we create as we are growing.  It is all too easy to blame the resistance on others and that is what keeps people stuck in this cycle.  Our attempts to push past external constraints when the constraint is internal will be fruitless.  When we have identified and dealt with the internal constraints then we will be in a position to respond to the external constraints.

There are many balancing factors that cause resistance to growth.  Here are four that you cannot afford to overlook and some questions you can ask to recognize if they are operating:

Trust - Nothing will undermine growth like a lack of trust.  In your efforts to grow are you paying attention to the level of trust between you and the people you are serving?  Have you evaluated your consistency, reliability, availability, timeliness?  Do you have an outside objective opinion of these?

Alignment - Have you ever been in a vehicle that is out of alignment?  Everything seems fine when you are driving at low speeds, but accelerate and all of a sudden the vehicle starts to shudder and swerve and you have to be careful to not lose control.  Alignment is crucial on a number of levels as you grow.  On a personal level, have you paid attention to whether you are drifting away from your personal vision and core values?  Within your team, are you taking the time to explain where you are heading and why.  Are you open to listening and are you welcoming of honest feedback?

Adaptability - We all operate within a picture of how the world works. When we have experienced success in the past it is easy to assume that the same factors will always operate the same way.  Adaptability is now believed to be one of the most important factors behind the long-term success of any vision.  Have you paid attention to your assumptions and whether they are still relevant?  Have you built in regular time for analysis and reflection?  Where are you ignoring or accommodating out-of-date practices.

Underinvestment - When things stop going well it may seem natural to remove resources from the area that is not doing well. But underinvestment usually undermines future growth. The times of slow growth are often the time to prepare for the next stage of growth.  How deeply have you cut resources to try to accommodate the slowdown?  Are you holding back when you should be moving forward?  Do you have capacity to respond quickly to the next growth opportunity?  What new pioneer resources are needed for the next stage of growth?


Daniel

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