It did not make much sense to me then but, surprisingly, I remembered a lot of what was said... Power without love is abusive... Love without power is anemic... Love and power together are like learning to walk... The only way to walk is to be continually off balance... But eventually you master it so you don't even need to think about it anymore... Then you begin to dance... The dance of power and love is what is needed to solve difficult situations...
Nine years later, I think that I am starting to understand why the dance of love and power is so important... because what keeps us as individuals, families and organizations in difficult situations is a underlying core belief in our own worthlessness (not deserving of love) and/or powerlessness (no ability to influence).
The path to walking into worth and power is not first and foremost about changing our external circumstances, although that may need to change in the future. It is about changing our internal beliefs. For example, trying to undertake 'powerful actions' is not the same thing as undertaking 'action out of power'. Many 'powerful actions' are actually desperate reactions to grab control out of a belief in our powerlessness. These types of actions do not lead to true power, instead, they produce an illusion of power which will leave us less secure and with a need to increasingly escalate to more and more of these actions, often perpetuating the difficult situation we want to get out of.
Ultimately, the path into resolving the difficult situations we are in involves facing our own feelings and beliefs about worthlessness and powerlessness and how we got there in the first place.
Daniel
The best mosaics have a lot of pieces...
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